Aunt Clara has high blood pressure and can't have salt. Cousin Johnny has diabetes and must watch his sugar intake. Uncle Herbert is strictly kosher, and your sister Sara doesn't eat red meat.

The kids are all allergic to nuts and shellfish. And you may be on a low-carb diet, lactose intolerant and avoiding fried and fatty foods because of your heartburn.

Who wants to cook a family dinner for this bunch?

The reality is that many families face the dilemma of feeding friends and loved ones with divergent food tastes and preferences. It's definitely not one size (or meal) fits all, and you can't please everyone. But a little planning and creativity can help you strike a good culinary balance. Here are some tips:

• Ask your guests what their special dietary needs are. Do this at least one to two weeks before the dinner party to give yourself enough time to plan the meal and get any special ingredients. Many people will appreciate that you asked.

• Unless you know all of your guests can eat the same meal, forget about serving one big entree (such as a 20-pound turkey). Instead, opt for a smorgasbord of smaller dishes: a platter of sliced turkey breast (the leanest cut of the turkey), a casserole of steamed vegetables (no fat added), a large fruit salad or mixed green salad and a small pan of stuffing.