"Things have gotten to the point where our therapist, who is also our pastor, is stepping in and is going to get him [my husband] to move out. I went to a session by myself the other night and told him what really goes on here. My husband has been emotionally, verbally, physically and sexually abusive to me. I know it's good for him to leave, but I'm scared of what he might do after that." --mcooney,Domestic Abuse support group.

Leaving your husband or domestic partner is difficult in the best of situations. Leaving an abusive partner can be dangerous as well. It is vital that you protect yourself, and your children, while you are preparing to leave and even after you have left the relationship. The NCADV suggests that you create your own safety plan to protect yourself in a violent situation and get help quickly without putting yourself in any additional danger (an example is provided below). However, your personal safety plan is only the first step in protecting yourself. You will also need emotional and legal support, as well as a financial plan of action. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) (TTY: 1-800-787-3224) for immediate support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Safety Planning

If you are still in the relationship: