We've all done it. Stood in front of a mirror and fixated on a flaw. A wrinkle here. A dimple there. And suddenly we're hating ourselves. All because of a stupid wrinkle.

Make-up artists tell clients not to stand too close to the mirror. Why? Because no one else views you as critically as you view yourself. No one else stares at the blemish on your cheek, or the line on your forehead. Why should you fixate on it? Instead, they recommend that you step back a bit and admire the big picture, the total person. Mind, body and spirit.

People don't usually see themselves this way -- they generally look at some small part and stake everything on that. I got a letter once from a woman who felt her whole life was falling apart because her thighs were too fat.

But, it's not about thinner thighs. Sure, you might like to have thinner thighs. We all want to change something. But it's really about everything.

I feel strongly that no matter who you are, you have to work with everything God has given you. Some of us are natural athletes, others are naturally gifted in very different areas. As we get more comfortable with ourselves, more sure of our priorities, it's okay to say: "You know what? Not everything has to be perfect." It's okay to be just who I am. I'm not in competition with anyone. I'm going to focus on reaching my own highest level of vitality.

When you do that, you'll feel great about yourself, you'll feel great in your body -- and you'll be in good enough shape to experience the very best your life has to offer.