I think that I may be slowly regressing into a perverted mental state. I'm 25 and I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. But I watch her friends, her family and other women a lot. Mainly I look at their butt, bust and crotch. My dream is to have sex with every woman that my heart desires. I know that in reality I don't want to do that. I love my girl. I just can't help watching and thinking. I have sex almost every day, and when I don't, I ejaculate thinking about all the crotches I've looked at during the day. I think that if I don't do something about this now, I may do something that could land me in serious trouble.

Shawn

I can't make specific recommendations about your situation without talking with you personally and finding out more about what you're experiencing.

What concerns me is that YOU seem to suspect there's a problem with your level of preoccupation with sex, and you're afraid that without some kind of change or intervention you might "do something that could land me in serious trouble." Whether your feared acting-out might be something that would damage your relationship with your girlfriend (such as mutually consensual sex with another woman) or something that might violate a woman's personal rights and land you in court or jail (such as rape or sexual harassment), you're wise to act NOW before things get out of hand.

I strongly encourage you to talk to a psychologist or other therapist experienced in helping people deal with sexual matters. He or she can help you understand whether the type and intensity of your sexual desires and activities are within normal limits, or whether they might arise from some problem that could be addressed through therapy. Therapy can also help you control your actions so you don't do anything to harm your relationship, other people, or yourself.

Keep in mind that therapy is private and confidential (except when insurance and managed care organizations are involved) and a good therapist will help you feel comfortable enough to process anything without feeling shamed or judged. (There are exceptions to the confidentiality policy according to state laws, though, with most states requiring therapists to report suspected child abuse or break confidentiality if a client is in imminent danger of harming him/herself or someone else.) Since you've been strong enough to question your behavior and are concerned about the future, I hope you'll follow up this inquiry by consulting personally with a licensed professional. Good luck.