In some cases, temper tantrums may be prevented or minimized. Parents and caregivers should be aware of signals that may indicate a tantrum is imminent. They can do so by studying the child’s tantrums for any patterns and asking themselves questions such as:

• Where and when do the tantrums typically occur?
  
  
• Do the tantrums typically involve anyone in particular?
  
  
• What events typically occur before, during and after each tantrum?

Setting realistic limits and helping children adhere to a regular schedule can also often prevent tantrums. It is especially important that a child have consistent mealtime and bedtime schedules.

Parents should also strive to offer their children legitimate choices. For instance, they should not ask children if they are tired unless they are prepared to allow them to take a nap. If a parent wants a child to take a nap at a specific time, they should tell the child that it is naptime rather than making the child feel as though he or she has a choice that does not exist.

Other methods for preventing and minimizing temper tantrums include:

• Give the child sufficient attention. Children prefer negative attention to no attention at all. Therefore, parents and caregivers may prevent tantrums by recognizing and rewarding positive behavior with attention.
  
  
• Allow the child to have some control. Letting children make certain choices, such as whether they want a grilled cheese or peanut better and jelly sandwich for lunch, may fulfill their need for autonomy and prevent potential tantrums.
  
  
• Keep forbidden objects out of the child’s sight and reach when possible. This reduces the likelihood that struggles will develop between parent and child. Parents can also “child-proof” the home, which results in the need to enforce fewer restrictions.
  
  
• Say “no” only to things that are very important.
  
  
• Provide the child with adequate warning that an activity will soon end. This helps prepare the child for change.
  
  
• Help the child avoid activities that are too challenging. For example, parents should only allow children to play with age-appropriate games and toys. Permitting children to participate in tasks they will be unable to accomplish sets them up for failure and frustration.
  
  
• Recognize the child’s limits. For example, if it is obvious that a child is sleepy, parents may want to postpone running an errand.