I'm a 62-year-old female. I got married when I was 23 and for the first ten years I would get an orgasm when my husband stimulated my clitoris. After that when my husband would try to stimulate my clitoris the feeling would be one of irritation, like the way you didn't want to be touched after climax. (After a regular climax it takes a while to want to resume again.) Well, that's the feeling I've been left with, a feeling of irritation only to the clitoris and I haven't had an orgasm in 24 years. Obviously we don't engage in intercourse very much. I've asked regular doctors and they don't know what I should do. Can you help me?

Since it is a problem of such long standing, 24 years, it might be something that you just got used to and you're cutting yourself off before you can even have a pleasurable sensation. The most important thing is not to give up on sexual activity.

One thing you should perhaps try is a vibrator, either a battery operated one or an electric one. Don't touch the clitoris directly with the vibrator, just use it in the area. And use a lubricant, like KY Jelly, in order not to feel that irritation. Either your husband or you can do this. Don't give up on sexual activity, because that might just heighten the problem as you are already expecting not to have pleasure or an orgasm. A sex therapist could be of help to you.